Self love: Courageous conversations — Honesty

The past two weeks we have been talking about the importance of having a relationship with yourself and today I just want us to focus on the importance of being honest with yourself in all situations. You need to be able to sit yourself down and call yourself out.

I have noticed that it is very easy to notice every little wrong thing that is done by the people around us. It’s easy for us to pick habits, character traits that annoy us about other people but are we aware of our own blind spots?

A few years ago, my therapist mentioned the importance of having courageous conversations in a relationship set up. She said that it is healthy to speak the truth in love and that the truth is not always comfortable to hear. Many of us get so defensive when our weaknesses are called out. This is because we are not ready acknowledge that we also have areas of improvement.

Self love involves having to tell yourself honest truths. In order for you to improve in any area, you first have to acknowledge that you are not doing so great. You cannot become a better version of yourself by overlooking areas of improvement. Sometimes you have to admit that you are not a very honest person, you have to admit that you are lustful and sometimes you got to admit that you have a habit of taking stuff that doesn’t belong to you. Admitting such is often the first step to getting better.

You need to love yourself enough to admit that it’s not always the other people who mess things up. You too have some toxic traits and you have to be honest with yourself, to be able to work on it. Admitting that you have weaknesses doesn’t make you a terrible person, but it shows that you are willing to evolve.

I encourage you to ask yourself the following questions as you start having honest conversations with yourself.

Questions

1. Are you aware of your weaknesses?

If your answer is YES, list them down and come up with an action plan of how you’re going work on improving these areas.

If your answer is NO, try asking your close friends and family what your blind spots are — trust me there is something they would want to see you working on.

2. Do you confront yourself when you do something out of character?

I encourage you to always trace and identify new habits that maybe out of character to you.

3. Do you value honesty?

Would you say you are honest with yourself?

Thank you for reading. Stay blessed ❤️